In their efforts to crucify Ohio State football Coach Urban Meyer, the media are setting a lazy, ineffective and unwise precedent that they’ll likely regret much sooner than later.
The narrative is that Meyer may have knowingly worked with someone who was accused of domestic abuse, and thus Meyer is culpable in that abuse and should probably be fired.
I wrote a while back that the #MeToo movement had been hijacked by media, political and social hysterics, thus diluting an otherwise important conversation and evolution.
The attempted professional lynching and character assassination of Meyer for crimes that, if they occurred, no one is accusing him of committing — is yet another example of #MeToo having become far more blood-thirsty than productive.
And since the accusations are already getting plenty of oxygen, I’d like to ask a few other questions based on the implied precedent…
Who on Stadium’s payroll has ever been accused, or convicted, of any kind of domestic abuse? If we ran a background check on every employee in their company, how many DUIs would we find? Domestic abuse is both horrific and inexcusable without qualification. But so is getting behind the wheel while drunk and putting others’ lives at risk.
Is Stadium currently employing anyone guilty, or even accused, of such crimes?
Has anyone from Stadium ever gone out for a happy hour with co-workers, and then watched one or more of them drive home while “buzzed?”
If so, what did Stadium do about it?
How about CNN which, along with the rest of the media, is reporting on this story with their narrative already established: Urban Meyer probably knew, and so he’s basically a rapist.
Is CNN employing anyone who has put someone else’s well-being in jeopardy? If so, what did they do about it? And if the answer is nothing, then why do they hold themselves to a different standard than those they report on?
Are employers now responsible not just for the job that their employees do, but also what happens in their personal lives? We know that employers want to maintain a good image and that public lynchings are, for the first time in a century, again very common thanks to guilty-until-proven-innocent SJW mobs. So it’s not uncommon for employers to ask, or require, that their employees be good stewards of the company brand both on and off the clock.
But that’s for the employers to decide, and for employees to consent to in tandem with their company obligations.
It’s not for the media to impose, especially when the media is so obviously more smitten with social and political narratives — rather than truth and/or justice.
If Urban Meyer had fired Zach Smith from the Buckeyes staff, would that have helped Courtney? She hadn’t even yet left him. Is the contention that firing him based on Courtney’s allegations would have made things better for them at home?
If the story is accurate, then Meyer did get involved and helped the Smiths get counseling. (Which Courtney, rather than escalate the situation to the levels she now says it merited, was apparently fine with at the time.) That type of professional help, along with legal intervention, are the jurisdictions where allegations like Courtney’s should be handled. Her or her husband’s places of business are entirely inappropriate venues for recourse. So the intervention Meyer did offer, from my seat, is above and beyond what an employer should be tasked with. It’s the move of a family member or friend; not a co-worker or Manager.
As an old friend used to wisely remind me, “Nobody at works cares about what’s happening at home. And nobody at home cares about what’s happening at work.” Now I understand the “But muh feelz!” generation might not like that, but it’s true. And the minute someone denies that reality, their work and home lives become inappropriately conflated and distracted from what’s really important in each respective silo.
If an employer wants to drone on about their commitment to “work/life balances,” that’s fine. But it’s really up to the employee to manage that. We all know, deep down, that the employer just wants productivity. So if they claim they care about your home life, it’s only because they want to make sure your home life is healthy enough to leave at the door when you come to the office.
Urban Meyer is being attacked for one, flimsy, inappropriate reason. And that reason is this: Zach Smith just isn’t a big enough entree for the insatiable media and hijacked #MeToo cannibals.
They need bigger feasts to gorge on, and the head coach of Ohio State’s mountainous football program will, if scalped and served on a spit, tide them over for at least a few months.
That is why Meyer is being attacked. And good, intellectually honest people should stand up and admit they know it. Domestic violence and sexual assault are both exceptionally heinous. And they conjure up disgusting, graphic mental images — and appropriate ferocity for the perpetrators, and sympathy for the victims/survivors.
But drunk driving literally kills people. And if prolonged staring or inappropriate comments are derided as predatory with respect to sexual assault, so too should convictions of drunk driving — even if no one died — be derided as inexcusable and reckless behavior that merits commensurate anger and action.
So what did Kristen Balboni know, and when did she know it?
What did Stadium know, and when did they know it?
What did CNN know, and when did they know it?
If the assertion from the media and hijacked #MeToo movement is that individuals and employers are now responsible for what their co-workers and/or employees do in their personal lives, then it’s not an Urban Meyer or Ohio State problem.
It’s an everyone problem.
And it’s only a matter of time before concerned citizens start poring through the backgrounds of CNN and Stadium employees, looking for examples of conduct that endangered the lives and/or well-being of others.
That’s not the world I want to live in. Just like Will Smith, I believe in personal responsibility…
If I run a company, I want to set my own employment standards and agreements.
If I manage someone, I want to focus on what I think is important in order to do the job they’re paid to do.
If I’m an employee, I want the option of getting a job that lets me keep my work and home lives separate.
And if someone I have a personal a relationship with wrongs me within the confines of that personal relationship, I want to handle it myself instead of going to their boss and asking them to fix the problem.
But per the media and SJW mob’s attempted lynching of Urban Meyer, that’s not how we’re going to do things. Per the mob, employers and direct Managers are now fully responsible for what their employees do both on and off the clock. And if they don’t accept that enormous and all-consuming responsibility, then they are no longer qualified to do the actual work they were hired to do.
That’s a pretty low and socially regressive bar, but if it’s the one that Stadium, CNN and others think everyone should be held to — then they should be prepared to answer similar questions. And those questions don’t stop at sexual assault or domestic violence, where in both cases the crime still amounts to inflicting harm on another. Employers are now culpable for any instance of assault, fights, harmful drug possession, DUIs — any crime or accusation of a crime that harmed or could have harmed another person. That’s apparently how we’re doing things now.
So who on CNN or Stadium’s payrolls have anything like that in their background? And what did CNN and/or Stadium do about it? Did they approach the victims to offer support? If not, why not? And does that make them bad employers, or bad stewards of a healthy society, or criminals themselves? I would argue that it doesn’t. But if they want to sensationally scorch the earth while destroying yet more lives in their purported attempt to help a victim, then they should be ready for the same treatment.